Do you ever check yourself? In what you say, what you do, and what you write? Do you stop and say, “Here’s a line I must not cross”? Or do you spew your thoughts and ideas out loud and on paper and in blog posts across the web without a thought for how they will be perceived by others?
This is an electronic world we live in and as much as things are so very easy now because of technology, it is also a very harsh and unforgiving frontier on some fronts. What you put out there in the electronic world can and will, and often does, come back to bite you on your pretty little ass.
Have you ever heard of the Wayback Machine? I can use it and dig up cached copies of websites I built more than 10 years ago. I cringe when I see them because my work is more refined and prettier now. And even though those sites are no longer up, they are still out there for people to find, if you know how to dig.
When you post to your blog, how many people are going to see it and remember your words? Dooce is a blogger who became famous for losing her job because of what she said on her blog. My own pal Karl had the same thing happen to him. I even have a post on my blog about “How I Almost Got Karled” which is about how I got “talked to” at work because of frustrations I’d unloaded on my personal blog.
Yahoo groups and blogs are places you can call your own, but you have to ask yourself how much access do people have to those things? How much of yourself are you giving away to others in a thoughtless, careless manner? Are you giving a stalker the means to find your house or your place of employment? Are you giving readers a bad view of yourself as an author when you whine constantly on your blog or public group about your bad editors, stupid publishers, and the antics of other authors who are behaving in a less than professional manner? And what about when you blatantly do things on groups that are against the rules? Don’t those things reflect poorly on you as well?
Yes. They. Do.
If promo is only Monday and you send one through on Wednesday, and you do it more than once, people start thinking you’re either getting preferential treatment (which will piss them off) or that you’re arrogant and don’t give a shit about anyone’s rules. The more authors and readers see you do these things, the fewer fans and buyers you get for your books. And yes, the more publishers and editors who see it, the fewer houses you’ll find for your work. No one wants to deal with a prima donna. Maybe you’re not really one, but by flaunting the rules repeatedly, you’ve given the impression that you are.
If you post the wrong kind of promo to a loop, the same thing holds true. If the group is for sweet romance only and you’re posting sci-fi erotica you can be sure that someone – probably lots of someones – are going to notice. And they won’t forget that you were either too stupid to figure out your promo didn’t fit that group or you were too arrogant to care. Readers don’t want to buy from authors who are assholes. I don’t want to buy from authors who are assholes. Most people don’t.
And speaking of groups, how much should you tell people on an open, public group? I have a closed, non-public, invite only group. I say whatever I want there and invite the members to do the same. But we’re talking about two dozen people who probably aren’t the type to go spilling their guts to the web that Rott made Lex cry last night. (He didn’t. It’s just an example. LOL) Or that menopause is kicking my ass with more periods than I’ve had in 10 years. (Quite true, unfortunately.)
But did you REALLY need to know that about me? Did you REALLY want to know it? And should I have even told you? How much of my private life should I share with you before it becomes monotonous and stupid and fuel for someone to make fun of me in an effort to boost their sales by hopefully diminishing mine?
And more than all that, how much do you have to say and do before you lose the respect of others, sales for your books, and publishers you can submit to?
If you sign a contract with a house not to give away more than 5 copies of your book and you give away 10 and the publisher finds out about it because you posted it to your blog all braggy-like…do you think they are just going to smile and say, “Oh, that Lex. She’s just the nicest thing. We’ll just tell her not to do that again.” HELL TO THE NO. They are gonna be pissed and rightly so. You are now in breach of contract, honey, and if they have already gotten on your case for other things (promoing with non-sanctioned excerpts and blurbs and artwork, talking about their staff publically in a way that isn’t positive, etc.) you can bet your bottom dollar that your next submission to them is going to be looked at askance.
Sure, the big sellers get away with these antics. Sometimes. But do you want to risk it? Risk sales, fans, professional respect?
Authors need to press the flesh, get out there and tell people who you are, show them your work. But you need to do this in a professional manner, using the most polished tools you have, and you need to always be aware of your web-presence. Be aware of the fact that no matter how casual the internet is, it’s a faithless bitch who will stab you in the back because every freaking error and misstep you have ever made in this cyber world can be uncovered and used against you.
Choose your words and deeds wisely in public, and make no mistake, this internet IS public. The information you whisper in one ear on the net isn’t really going into just one ear…it’s going into millions. Edit yourself as you should edit your work. And before you frown at me and tell me that’s a lot of extra BS you never signed up for with this gig, let me remind you of things your parents probably told you.
Put your best foot forward.
Think before you speak.
Before you type into that chat window, IM window, Twitter box, Facebook wall, Yahoo group, blog post, blog comment, forum, message board, PM, email, text message, or any other social media or internet related thing… do those two things. And remember, there’s a reason people yell TMI across all social media. Sometimes, there are things we just don’t want to know. So before you spew your guts out on Facebook or the loops, you better make sure you know and understand just exactly what truly is too much.








